This is the honest truth of the matter- mothers are the worst when it comes to the blame and shame game. We blame other mothers, and are the largest contributer to the feelings of judgement and shame. We feel shame for leaving our kids in daycare, and shame for staying home and not bringing home the bacon. We feel shame for choosing breastfeeding by people who think it is sexual, gross , or indecent, but if a woman chooses to bottle feed or supplement with formula she is selfish or inadequate . We blame ourselves, and feel judgement from everyone, and yet we dish it out on others. We need to stop blaming and shaming each other. We don’t need to add the feeling of inaduqesy to the overwhelming burden of postpartum depression.